Use the worksheets to get a better sense of the voices inside your own head. Each section ends with a series of worksheets that offer a chance to work through the responses you instinctively use and new options you can develop.
Explore the many examples other parents have provided. Faber & Mazlish worked with groups of parents to put their theories and ideas into practice. Their writing is peppered with examples from real parents, and in those frustrated and often stymied voices, I find real companionship.
Final tip: Go slow! Many of these techniques take time to develop. If you are reading and practicing on your own, give yourself several weeks to work with each concept. Then when you move on to the next chapter, you'll feel more grounded.
Coranna Adams is a writer, filmmaker, and educator from Asheville, North Carolina.